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Orgasm & pleasure · Guide for women

How to Have an Orgasm

The friendly, no-shame guide to pleasure that nobody gave you at school.

28 pages · 7 chapters · PDF · instant download

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What's inside

  1. The Secret at BrunchFour friends, one question, and a very long silence.
  2. Meet the ClitorisThe most misunderstood part of the body is also the most important for pleasure.
  3. The Arousal CurveWhy rushing is the enemy, and warming up is the whole point.
  4. Your Brain Is InvitedGetting out of your head and into your body.
  5. Getting to Know YourselfPrivate exploration is the best teacher there is.
  6. Bringing It to a PartnerHow to share what you have learned without making it awkward.
  7. When It Is Still HardMedical reasons, emotional reasons and where to get help.

You also get

  • Clear illustrated diagrams
  • "Myth vs fact" and "Try this" boxes with practical steps
  • A "when to see a doctor" checklist
  • A printable worksheet
  • Research sources, so you know it is real

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From chapter 1, "The Secret at Brunch". Every guide is written like a story, with real research behind it.

Sunday, 12:30pm. Bottomless brunch. Too many mimosas. Just enough honesty.

The restaurant had pink velvet chairs and a neon sign that said "But first, brunch." Amara sat with three friends from university: Kemi, who laughed with her whole body; Zainab, who always had a planner; and Chioma, who had been divorced for a year and had "stopped caring what anybody thinks." It was Chioma who asked the question.

"Okay, honest round. Who here has an orgasm every time?"

The table went silent. Somebody's fork scraped a plate. Kemi suddenly became very interested in her waffle.

"Nobody?" Chioma said. "Not one of us?"

Zainab raised a hand halfway. "Sometimes. If I am alone."

Kemi whispered, "I have never had one. Ever. I am 27."

Amara said nothing, but her face said everything. Later that evening, she called the one person she knew would not laugh.

AmaraJide. Emergency brunch debrief.
JideDid someone propose? Did someone fight the waiter?
AmaraWorse. We discovered none of us really know how to have an orgasm. And one of us has never had one.
JideOh.
JideWait. Is that... common?
AmaraThat is what I want to find out.
JideSo the movies lied to us.
AmaraThe movies lied to EVERYBODY. Two minutes of kissing and suddenly fireworks? Please.
JideI need to rethink my whole life.
AmaraJust your bedroom, Jide. Start with the bedroom.

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