Mind & desire · Guide for men
Beat Performance Anxiety
When the fear of failing is the thing that makes you fail, and how to break free.
19 pages · 5 chapters · PDF · instant download
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What's inside
- The Coach's ConfessionJide tells the car park his story.
- How the Trap WorksOne bad night, then the loop.
- What Got Me OutJide's steps, backed by research.
- More ToolsBreathing, alcohol, porn and a temporary bridge.
- On the Other SideJide and the car park, three months later.
You also get
- Clear illustrated diagrams
- "Myth vs fact" and "Try this" boxes with practical steps
- A "when to see a doctor" checklist
- A printable worksheet
- Research sources, so you know it is real
Read the opening
From chapter 1, "The Coach's Confession". Every guide is written like a story, with real research behind it.
Thursday, 9:00pm. The Car Park Sessions. Thirty men. Jide puts down the whiteboard marker.
For a year and a half, Jide had stood by the whiteboard every Thursday, explaining, joking, drawing bad diagrams. Tonight, he did not pick up the marker. He sat on the bonnet of his car and looked at the men around him.
"I want to tell you something," he said. "The reason I started all this. The reason I understand what many of you are going through."
The car park went quiet.
"About two years ago, one night with Tolu, I lost my erection. Just once. I was tired, stressed, I had had a couple of drinks. It happens. But I panicked. And the next time, I was so scared it would happen again that... it happened again. And again. I started avoiding sex. Making excuses. Working late. Scrolling until 1am. Tolu thought I did not want her. I did want her. I was terrified."
Nobody moved. Somewhere, a car alarm went off and stopped.
"That is performance anxiety," Jide said. "And I want to tell you how I got out of it."
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