Desire & libido · Guide for women

Get Your Libido Back

A funny, honest guide to finding your spark again.

45 pages · 10 chapters · PDF · instant download

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What's inside

Where Did It Go?The day two best friends admitted the same embarrassing thing.
The Two Kinds of WantingWhy "I'm just not in the mood" might be the wrong question.
Brakes and AcceleratorsYour body has two pedals. One of them has probably been stuck.
The Usual SuspectsEight common reasons desire goes quiet, and what each one needs.
The Body BasicsSleep, move, eat, sip. Boring? Yes. Powerful? Also yes.
Taking the Brick Off the BrakeStress, mental load and the art of switching off.
Talk Like Grown-UpsThe awkward conversation that fixes more than any pill.
Turn the Accelerator Back OnPressure-free touch, novelty and rediscovering what feels good.
When to See a DoctorWhat to say, what to ask and what help exists.
The 7-Day Spark PlanA gentle week to get you started.

You also get

Clear illustrated diagrams
"Myth vs fact" and "Try this" boxes with practical steps
A "when to see a doctor" checklist
A printable worksheet
Research sources, so you know it is real

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From chapter 1, "Where Did It Go?". Every guide is written like a story, with real research behind it.

Sunday, 4:12pm. A rooftop café. Too many plants.

The café had the kind of lighting that made everyone look like they were in a music video. Amara had arrived early, which meant she had already photographed her iced hibiscus drink from four angles and reapplied her lip gloss twice. Her nails were pale pink with tiny gold stars, done on Friday, and she tapped them against the glass while she watched the stairs.

Jide came up two steps at a time, gym bag over one shoulder, a fresh line-up so sharp it looked drawn with a ruler. He dropped into the chair opposite her like a man who had just finished leg day, which he had.

JideBoss lady. Why did you say it was an emergency. I left my protein shake in the car.

AmaraSit. Drink something. Do not laugh at what I am about to say.

JideI would never laugh at you.

AmaraYou laughed at my cousin's wedding when the goat escaped.

JideThe goat was running the whole ceremony, Amara. Fine. Go.

AmaraI think my libido is dead. Like, gone. Missing. If it were a person there would be posters.

Jide did not laugh. He looked at his shoes for a long second, then at the sky, then back at her. Something in his face shifted, the way it does when a person decides to be honest instead of cool.

JideOkay, this is weird. Because me too.

AmaraStop. You? Mr "I go to the gym at 6am so my blood is basically espresso"?

JideMe. Since maybe March. Tolu will lean on me on the couch and my brain is like, "we have emails." Emails, Amara. On a Saturday.

AmaraOh my God. We are the same person.

JidePlease do not say that in public.

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