Desire & libido · Guide for women

How Stress Kills Your Desire

Your body cannot run from a lion and feel sexy at the same time.

20 pages · 5 chapters · PDF · instant download

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What's inside

DecemberThe month everything falls apart, beautifully decorated.
The Lion in the RoomHow the stress response switches desire off.
Finish the Stress CycleWhy removing the stressor is not enough.
Lighten the LoadMental load, boundaries and asking for help.
Desire After the StormComing back to each other when life calms down.

You also get

Clear illustrated diagrams
"Myth vs fact" and "Try this" boxes with practical steps
A "when to see a doctor" checklist
A printable worksheet
Research sources, so you know it is real

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From chapter 1, "December". Every guide is written like a story, with real research behind it.

December 14, 11:48pm. Amara's cake shop. Flour on the ceiling. Somehow.

Amara had not left the shop before midnight in eleven days. There was fruitcake batter in her hair, a burn on her wrist from the oven, and a stack of order slips taller than her laptop. Her phone buzzed. It was Emeka: Coming home tonight or should I start paying rent to the oven?

She laughed, then she cried, then she laughed again, which is what happens at 11:48pm in December.

AmaraJide. Are you awake?

JideI am always awake now. I am an app launch zombie.

AmaraI have not wanted Emeka in three weeks. Not even a little. When he touches me I feel like he is adding something to my to-do list.

JideLast night I fell asleep while kissing Tolu.

AmaraWHAT.

JideMid-kiss. She says I snored into her mouth.

AmaraJide, that is the saddest thing I have ever heard.

JideShe laughed so hard she cried. But then she was quiet. And I felt terrible.

AmaraWe need to understand what is happening to us.

JideAfter the launch.

AmaraNo. Now. Before the launch kills us both.