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Desire & libido · Guide for women

Sex and Anxiety

When worry follows you into the bedroom, and how to help your body feel safe again.

18 pages · 5 chapters · PDF · instant download

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What's inside

  1. The StoreroomBisola's secret.
  2. How Anxiety Shows UpDifferent kinds of worry, different effects.
  3. Tools for the MomentCalming your body when anxiety arrives.
  4. Tools for the Long TermTherapy, lifestyle and medicines.
  5. Feeling Safe TogetherBisola and Kayode, three months later.

You also get

  • Clear illustrated diagrams
  • "Myth vs fact" and "Try this" boxes with practical steps
  • A "when to see a doctor" checklist
  • A printable worksheet
  • Research sources, so you know it is real

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From chapter 1, "The Storeroom". Every guide is written like a story, with real research behind it.

Wednesday, 4:30pm. The cake shop storeroom. Bags of flour. A young woman breathing too fast.

Bisola was 24, a pastry student with bright pink braids and a talent for sugar flowers. She was also, Amara discovered that afternoon, someone who had been hiding panic attacks for years.

Amara found her sitting on a sack of flour, hands shaking, gulping air. She knelt down, spoke slowly, breathed with her, and after ten long minutes, Bisola's breathing settled.

"Sorry," Bisola whispered. "It happens. Sometimes at work. Sometimes on the bus." She paused. "Sometimes during sex. With Kayode. I start to feel close to him and then my heart races and I feel like I am dying and I have to stop. He thinks I do not want him. I do not know how to explain."

"You do not have to explain right now," Amara said. "Let us get you some tea."

AmaraJide, Bisola from the shop has panic attacks. Sometimes during sex.
JideOh, poor girl. That must be terrifying.
AmaraHer boyfriend thinks she does not want him.
JideI can imagine. When my performance anxiety was bad, Tolu thought I did not want her either. Anxiety makes everything look like rejection.

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