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Connection · Guide for women

Ask for What You Want in Bed

Know your wants, find your words and say them without shrinking.

19 pages · 5 chapters · PDF · instant download

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What's inside

  1. The Silent YearsChioma decides her second chapter will sound different.
  2. Know What You Want FirstYou cannot ask for something you have not discovered.
  3. Finding Your WordsPhrases for every level of shyness.
  4. When Your Partner ReactsHandling surprise, hurt feelings and your own fear.
  5. Asking Includes NoBoundaries are part of desire.

You also get

  • Clear illustrated diagrams
  • "Myth vs fact" and "Try this" boxes with practical steps
  • A "when to see a doctor" checklist
  • A printable worksheet
  • Research sources, so you know it is real

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From chapter 1, "The Silent Years". Every guide is written like a story, with real research behind it.

Thursday, 7:00pm. Amara's cake shop. Chioma, a glass of wine and a new man in her life.

Chioma had been divorced for nearly two years. She had done the therapy, the physio, the healing. Now there was Dele: a gentle, funny secondary school maths teacher she had met at a friend's birthday. They had been dating for three months. Things were getting serious.

"I was married for six years," Chioma said, turning her glass. "And in six years, I never once asked for anything in bed. Not once. I just... went along with whatever happened. And I was miserable. I do not want to do that again. But I do not know how to ask. Even thinking about it makes my face hot."

Amara pulled up a stool. "Then we practise."

"Practise? Here? In a cake shop?"

"Everything is easier with cake."

AmaraJide, I am coaching Chioma on asking for what she wants in bed. Any tips from the male side?
JideHonestly? I wish Tolu had asked for things sooner. For years I was guessing. Asking is a gift.
AmaraCan I quote you?
JidePut it on a cake.

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