Connection · Guide for women

How to Talk About Sex With Your Partner

Scripts, timing and tricks for the conversation most couples avoid.

21 pages · 6 chapters · PDF · instant download

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What's inside

The SilenceKemi and Seyi, two years together, zero conversations.
Why It Feels So HardShame, fear and the myth of "they should just know."
When, Where and How to StartSetting up the conversation for success.
How to Say the Tricky ThingsFeedback, wishes and "no" without hurting anyone.
How to ListenThe other half of every great conversation.
Keep TalkingMake it normal, not a one-time event.

You also get

Clear illustrated diagrams
"Myth vs fact" and "Try this" boxes with practical steps
A "when to see a doctor" checklist
A printable worksheet
Research sources, so you know it is real

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From chapter 1, "The Silence". Every guide is written like a story, with real research behind it.

Friday, 8:00pm. A restaurant. Kemi and her boyfriend Seyi. Amara and Emeka at the next table, "accidentally."

Kemi had asked Amara to sit nearby "for courage." Amara had agreed, then dragged Emeka along, and now they were pretending to read menus while listening very hard.

Kemi and Seyi had been together two years. He was a quiet architect who drew buildings on napkins. She loved him. And they had never, not once, talked about sex. Not what they liked. Not what they did not. Not what they wished for.

"Seyi," Kemi said, fiddling with her fork. "Can we talk about... us? In bed?"

Seyi's napkin drawing froze halfway through a staircase. "Is something wrong?"

"No! Nothing wrong. I just... I want us to be able to talk about it."

He looked at her for a long time. Then he said, very quietly, "I have wanted to talk about it for two years. I did not know how to start."

At the next table, Amara squeezed Emeka's hand so hard he yelped.

AmaraJide. Kemi did it. She started the talk.

JideAnd?!

AmaraSeyi had been waiting TWO YEARS to talk about it too.

JideTwo years of both of them waiting for the other one to go first.

AmaraLike two people standing at a door saying "after you."

JideFor two years.

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