Connection · Guide for women

Bring the Passion Back

How long-term couples go from comfortable to curious, and fall for each other again.

19 pages · 5 chapters · PDF · instant download

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What's inside

FlatmatesJide's honest confession.
Why Passion FadesRoutine, familiarity and the "too close" problem.
See Each Other AnewThe power of watching your partner shine.
Novelty, Play and EffortDoing new things together.
Bringing Newness to the BedroomGently, together, at your pace.

You also get

Clear illustrated diagrams
"Myth vs fact" and "Try this" boxes with practical steps
A "when to see a doctor" checklist
A printable worksheet
Research sources, so you know it is real

Read the opening

From chapter 1, "Flatmates". Every guide is written like a story, with real research behind it.

Monday, 3:04am. Amara is feeding baby Adaeze. Her phone lights up. Jide cannot sleep either.

JideAre you awake?

AmaraI am always awake now. I have a tiny boss.

JideCan I talk about something?

AmaraAlways.

JideTolu and I are fine. Really. We love each other. But we have become... flatmates. We share bills, we cook, we watch shows, we sleep. We have sex maybe once a month, and it is nice, but it feels like brushing our teeth. Routine. I miss the fire.

AmaraHow long has it felt like this?

JideA year? Maybe more. I did not notice it happening. It just crept in.

AmaraJide, that is the most common story in long relationships. And it is fixable.

JideHow do you know?

AmaraBecause it is 3am, I am holding a baby, and I have had a lot of time to read.

Six years earlier, Jide and Tolu had been unable to keep their hands off each other. They had kissed in her car for hours, stayed up talking until sunrise, and texted each other forty times a day. Now they sent each other shopping lists.

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