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Connection · Guide for women

Slow Down for Better Sex

Why rushing ruins pleasure, and how taking your time changes everything.

19 pages · 5 chapters · PDF · instant download

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What's inside

  1. Seven MinutesJide's accidental stopwatch.
  2. What Slowness DoesThe science of taking your time.
  3. Slow Touch PracticesIdeas to try, from gentle to deeper.
  4. Slowing Down During SexPace, pauses and presence.
  5. The AfterglowWhy the moments after matter as much as the moments during.

You also get

  • Clear illustrated diagrams
  • "Myth vs fact" and "Try this" boxes with practical steps
  • A "when to see a doctor" checklist
  • A printable worksheet
  • Research sources, so you know it is real

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From chapter 1, "Seven Minutes". Every guide is written like a story, with real research behind it.

Thursday, 10:15pm. Jide's kitchen. A stopwatch app still open on his phone.

It started as a joke. Tolu had bet him he could not make a cup of tea faster than she could get ready for bed. He set a stopwatch. Then they got distracted, and the stopwatch kept running, and when he picked up his phone afterwards, it said 7:04.

"Seven minutes," Tolu said, reading it over his shoulder. "Including your socks."

She was laughing. But there was something else in her voice too.

JideAmara. How long is "normal" for sex?
AmaraWhy are you asking me this at 10pm?
JideSeven minutes. Stopwatch. Accident. Long story.
AmaraHAHAHAHAHA.
JideTolu laughed too. But I think she was a bit sad.
AmaraJide, the length is not really the issue. It is the speed. Did it feel rushed?
Jide...Everything feels rushed. Work, food, sleep. We even kiss fast. Like a stamp.
AmaraA stamp! Jide!
JideKiss. Stamp. Done. Next.

Amara was laughing, but she was also thinking about her own Sunday mornings with Emeka. When had they last lain in bed for an hour, doing nothing in particular? She could not remember.

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