Comfort & body · Guide for women

Why Sex Hurts

Pain is a message, not a duty. What it can mean and how to get it treated.

20 pages · 6 chapters · PDF · instant download

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What's inside

The Bathroom at the ChristeningChiamaka's secret, and why she thought it was normal.
Where and When It HurtsWhy the details matter so much.
The Usual CausesA friendly tour through the possibilities.
Getting TreatedWhat treatment can look like, and how long it takes.
For PartnersHow to help without adding pressure.
Four Months LaterChiamaka's update.

You also get

Clear illustrated diagrams
"Myth vs fact" and "Try this" boxes with practical steps
A "when to see a doctor" checklist
A printable worksheet
Research sources, so you know it is real

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From chapter 1, "The Bathroom at the Christening". Every guide is written like a story, with real research behind it.

Sunday, 2:30pm. A family christening. Jollof, speeches and a cousin missing for twenty minutes.

Amara found Chiamaka in the upstairs bathroom, sitting on the closed toilet lid in her beautiful blue lace, mascara running. Chiamaka was 24, a pharmacy student, the baby of the family, and had been glowing at her wedding three months ago. She was not glowing now.

"Chiamaka. What is wrong? Talk to me."

For a long moment, she just shook her head. Then it came out in a rush. "It hurts. Every time. With Obinna. Since the wedding night. Like burning. Like something tearing. Mummy said the first few times hurt and then it gets better. It has been three months. It is not better. I think something is wrong with me. I think he will leave me."

Amara sat down on the edge of the bath and held both of her cousin's hands.

"Nothing is wrong with you as a person. But something might be happening in your body that needs a doctor. And sex should not hurt. Not the first time, not the hundredth."

AmaraJide, I need your help. It is about Obinna. Your school friend.

JideObinna? What happened? Is he being bad to her?

AmaraNo. He sounds kind. But Chiamaka has pain during sex, every time, for three months. She has been pushing through because she thinks it is normal and she is scared he will leave.

JideOh no. Oh, Chiamaka.

AmaraCan you talk to Obinna? Man to man?

JideI will call him tonight.

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